Parshat Tazria-Metzora

Dear STOCS Friend:

When discussing the upcoming double Parasha, Tazria-Metzora, much attention is often given to how the power of words (Lashon Harah) wound and harm. But what about the other side of the coin—the ability of words to heal and comfort.? As I reflected on this idea, a question came to mind: Do comforting words truly exist?

After an hour of searching some of my Seforim and then on the internet, I concluded, the words may not be the source of comfort, rather a clear sign that you care about others. Rabbi Baruch  Leff writes:  “Sensitivity for others, loving your friends and neighbors is what the entire Torah is all about. The goal of all of the 613 commandments is to break free from the self-serving and selfish attitude with which we are born, and to step into the thoughts and feelings of those around us, including God.”

Empathy is the starting point. Whenever I meet with a soon-to-be Bar or Bat Mitzvah, I always introduce the idea of God-awareness. It is about cultivating a sense of awe throughout the day—recognizing the beauty and wonder in the world around us and appreciating the everyday blessings we so often overlook.

Building upon this idea,  why not have people awareness as well. Awareness  is a precondition to empathy. Then listen, not just passively, but actively by making eye contact. The act of making eye contact plays a crucial role in this. It tells the other person, “I am here with you. You matter.” It builds trust, invites openness, and creates a space where real connection can happen.

Rather than creating division, discomfort, or hurt feelings, choose people-awareness. Strive to make a positive impact in someone else’s life. The Torah teaches, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” But to genuinely love yourself in a healthy, meaningful way, you must first learn to care for and love others. It is through this outward compassion that inner love takes root and grows.

Shabbat Shalom!

Rabbi Evan Shore